Considering this word, another seems synonymous = fear
The fear surrounding the word “no” is a great one. The people pleaser in all of us fear disappointment and letting others down. We are afraid of seeming lesser than, looking weak, being rude, getting rejected and being perceived as a failure. We also face guilt if we dare put ourselves first, labeled selfish and self-centered.
The fact is, the main reason we fear using this word, is its connection to others and their opinion of us.
We disregard our beliefs and needs, to project our “best selves” for the world to see, while our “true selves” are hidden between simple pleasantries and pretend smiles. This is not a sustainable way to live. So, what can we do?
Run a “”no” test and apply it to something small you usually wouldn’t say no to.
Pleasantly surprised by the outcome? You will soon discover the benefits outweigh the fear. Evaluating your needs, do’s and don’ts, will help you set healthy boundaries, establishing when to call on its use.
Once you feel comfortable take the next step and keep applying this. Your conviction will grow as you confidently make decisions that influence your life for the better and unlock your power to choose. Sure, this won’t be easy and you might lose some people along the way, but ultimately you will find the right balance.
Now that you “no” , the world will say yes to you.
Till next time…
Life Stuff with Tania Snyman 