Raw honesty

Only when you reveal your deepest desires, darkest secrets and biggest fears will you truly be able to receive and give love fully.

Let’s face the facts. We all hide a part of ourselves or fake our way through things sometimes. The thing is, we are lying to our partners and people closest to us by not being truthful. Holding everything in and pretending all is right in the world, is not the way to go about things, and ultimately effects our heart. After all, aren’t you exhausted keeping all this in? Shying away from certain topics, lying to cover secrets or avoiding people, no one has got time for this stuff any more.

The real challenge is to become an open person. We must except our flaws, our unpleasant habits, our fears and secrets, along with the good in us. The only way to get there is to talk about it. This is our call to action! We must peel back all the layers, to get to the core of who we are, so that we can move forward in a healthy loving way.

Safety first – Always make sure that you are comfortable before starting the process. You require loving and excepting people to hear you out. If you are in an unsafe space or situation, the first step is to get out of it.

Start the conversation – Begin with one not so scary thing. For example, you never liked banana bread and you have been hiding that fact for years. Starting with something simple is the best course of action and will allow you to gain more confidence for what is to come. You can also gauge the reaction and continue accordingly based on this.

Easy does it – Taking it slow, step by step is the way to go. Some scars will be very difficult to open, but in a safe space, once opened, they will begin to heal. You also don’t have to spill it all in an hour. Building up courage with smaller things, maybe once a week, will help overall with the heavy stuff.

From the bottom up – Now that you have purged, you can start to lay the foundations, so that you are truly able to build strong relationships. Honesty really is the best policy moving forward. They say honesty is the most expensive gift you can give others. Be unburdened my friends.

“Honesty is often very hard. The truth is often painful. But the freedom it can bring is worth the trying.” Fred Rogers

Till next time…