Relationship goals

Relationships can be difficult sometimes, however if both parties commit the same amount of effort and energy, you can reach #relationshipgoals. Here are some important things to note:

Find the right partner – Sure, you will have to go through some frogs to find the prince, but its all about the process and how you grow in relationships, that make you the person you are in the end. Ensure your pick has the same values, morals, religious beliefs and general life goals as you do.

Align future goals – Have the talk to establish your deal breakers. Ask the hard hitting questions to ensure no surprises further on. Do you want to get married some day? Do you want to have kids? Do you want pets? etc. When you are both on the same page, there will have smooth sailing towards your goals.

It’s ok to bicker – Having a disagreement and talking it out is a sign of a healthy relationship. It’s ok to get frustrated with your partner sometimes and it’s ok to get upset. As long as you work through it together, and you can move forward, life is golden. I don’t mean full on fights or screaming matches. If things get ugly, perhaps seek help or get out, this is not the relationship for you.

Know when to keep quiet – I find this the most difficult. I tend to say things with no filter and sometimes this could harm your partner. If you know that a certain subject is a sensitive topic then approach it with care. Sometimes it’s best not to mention it at all and to keep that negative thought to yourself.

Never go to bed angry at one another – You hear this one everywhere, but that doesn’t make it less true. Going to bed angry or leaving for the day angry at each other, not only effects your relationship in a negative way, but also effects your mental health and general outlook. Talk it out and move past it. Twist the negative into a positive, that will boost your relationship to a stable status for years to come.

Stay kind always – Always take your spouse into consideration. For example, if you are making lunch for yourself, offer to make for your partner. Small acts of kindness go a long way. Do nice things like pack the dishwasher or watch a movie they really like (that you might not care for).

Work through challenges and make decisions together – Staying connected through the challenges life throws at us might be difficult sometimes, but if you tackle it together you will build a stronger bond. You will form a greater understanding of each other and be better equipped for the next time. Remember you are in this for the long haul, the two of you are one union, important decisions need to be considered and made together always.

Learn each other loves language and nurture it – Words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch are the five types. Everyone reciprocates and expresses their love for each other differently. If you don’t understand how your partner communicates, things will become difficult very quickly.

Now, everyone’s ideal relationship looks different, so find what works best for you and stick to it.

Till next time…